Don’t get impatient
[The Joy List]
This week’s edition of The Joy List contains some of the most unsolicited and worthy pieces of advice I’ve recently come across.
I hope you find them worthwhile as much as I did.
With joy, Damola
“No one is saying life is perfect, we’re just suggesting a little humility in the form of surrender to the uncomfortable realities of life. Don’t fly off to something worse. Bear what you can now. Because you can bear it. We know you can.”
Kevin Kelly turned 70 recently and in his usual manner shared some unsolicited advices worth reading. Some of them include these:
When you forgive others, they may not notice, but you will heal. Forgiveness is not something we do for others; it is a gift to ourselves.
Cultivate 12 people who love you, because they are worth more than 12 million people who like you.
The biggest lie we tell ourselves is “I dont need to write this down because I will remember it.”
Three things you need: The ability to not give up something till it works, the ability to give up something that does not work, and the trust in other people to help you distinguish between the two.
When you are stuck, explain your problem to others. Often simply laying out a problem will present a solution. Make “explaining the problem” part of your troubleshooting process.
“Technology-driven efficiency has achieved wonderful things. It has brought people in developed countries an astonishingly rich standard of living, and freed most of us from the work of growing the food we eat or making the products we use. But applying the metric of efficiency to the expanding field of emotional labour misses a key promise offered by technological progress – that, with routine physical and cognitive work out of the way, the jobs of the future could be opportunities for people to genuinely care for each other.”
“As you get more successful, share that success with those who helped you years ago. When you’re in the tornado of fame, you can’t depend on your memory. So use your database now to keep track of who has done special favors for you.When you are famous, return the favors. Reach out to contact them, and invite them into your new world. (Don’t wait for them to ask.)”
Quote for the day
“This is one more piece of advice I have for you: don’t get impatient. Even if things are so tangled up you can’t do anything, don’t get desperate or blow a fuse and start yanking on one particular thread before it’s ready to come undone. You have to realize it’s going to be a long process and that you’ll work on things slowly, one at a time.” - Haruki Murakami
From Joy, Inc.
Some of you know our guest on #WithChude this weekend as Odogwu Maley. Others know him as Ill Bliss. He won the Soundcity Music Video Awards one year, and the next he was cleaning basketball courts in London. He disappeared from the scene for a few years and when he returned, he was back like he never left. The doctor said he was never going to have children, and then suddenly, the doctors said the miracle baby had been miscarried. All these were discussed in this episode. You can watch here.