Fellow traveler,
Every once and again, I go through some old notes, reminding myself of things I don’t want to forget. One of those notes prompted today’s newsletter.
I wish that you find peace as you go through life, and that the peace leads you to a place of stillness. I wish
And like Nik once wished, I do also wish that, given the choice, you’ll choose the peace of quietness over the noise of success, power, and fame. That you’re not tempted to chase whatever can be counted, because in the end, that’s often the only thing we end up doing…
I wish that when life pulls you in all kinds of directions, you’ll take the breath it takes to look deep inside and find the ‘no’ you want to find. No matter who or what inundates you with requests, questions, opportunities even…That you’ll wake up from the endless nightmare of pleasing everyone. Because for every one person you make happy, another falls by the wayside.
With joy,
Damola
Worth reading
> “I have a theory—based on my experience interviewing thousands of people—that we humans are able to achieve wholeness and well-being in direct proportion to how we receive love. Not how the love is given, but how we are able to process and accept it.” — Oprah on How to Accept Love
> Give yourself what you wanted then, and your children what they need now.
I came across this piece and thought the parents on this newsletter will relate to it. (Insert quote from piece about the immutable error). I think this goes beyond parenting, and into other identities we possess - as friend, colleague, supervisor and so on. While you try to relive and fill the gaps with what you missed, don’t forget to focus on what others need at this moment too.
> “I asserted the old claim “Money doesn’t buy happiness.” It’s not quite that simple, of course. I should say, “Money doesn’t buy satisfaction.” Homeostasis sees to that, in the form of what psychologists call the hedonic treadmill: People never feel they have enough money because they get used to their circumstances very quickly and need more money to make them happy again. Don’t believe it? Think back to your last significant pay increase. When did you get the greatest satisfaction—on the day your boss told you that you were getting a raise? The day it starts hitting your bank account? And how much satisfaction was it giving you six months later?” — The Three Equations for a Happy Life
> “If we handle our anger well, we can create a culture of peacefulness and progress and patience, of vulnerability and authenticity and tenderness, of justice and love, wherever we go. We can do so not because we don’t have anger, but because we are having it in the wisest way possible. So, what are you waiting for?” — The Four Kinds of Anger (and How to Handle Them Better)
> Finally, this is how to avoid information exhaustion. Sadness is not depression.
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Worth thinking about
“You are the one most responsible for telling yourself the truth. If you don’t do it for yourself, why would you expect anyone else to?”